Sign up and Get Listed, All close relationships have difficult moments, times when partners feel hurt, disappointed, or frustrated with one another. Im sorry for making you feel unhappy. You should be able to move on.. I am ready to take away all the hurt I made you. Oh, I am absolutely willing to listen to what the person has to say, empathise and do everything to make a mends, because I dont want them to feel hurt by me. "I felt so much, that I started to feel nothing." Unknown Feeling inadequate can be too much pressure. I love you so much, and I am deeply sorry. I felt I lose the ultimate blessings in life because I have hurt you the most. Babe, I am asking for your forgiveness. You stay on my side no matter what happens. So instead of focusing on not being good enough, you can refocus on meeting those needs. Thank you for your comment. Here's how to allow your mind respite. Subscribe me to the GoodTherapy.org public newsletter. I regret and angry with myself for letting such a stupid act. [Chorus: Jesy & Leigh-Anne, All, Jesy] Am I still not good enough? Sorry that I couldn't say those words to you when it would have made a difference. Please forgive me. I fully commit to listen and become more understanding, so I will not lose you., They say that in love, there is always a fight. I am now feeling the emptiness. How could he now know that kicking me in the back, dragging me out of the bed by my hair, and twisting my arm behind my back a few months ago wouldnt traumatize me? 1. You know it's showing up when you feel shame, embarrassment, regret, anger, jealousy, and a host of other emotions. I wish I can still have the chance to come back and give you my warm, loving arms. Miller also stressed the importance of practicing self-compassion. Im sorry for being immature. Do you think if you wait after your apology that they may think you dont care? They understand each others needs and experiences in new ways that allow them to be more responsive to each other in the future. I am deeply sorry. I am burdened of my stupid and immature habits. I think that the biggest thing that you can do is to have some patience, and know that this is what has to be done if you want to repair the damage that has been done. Regret is a common feeling, but knowing how to move past and learning from regrets can help you live a better life. This quiz aims to help you identify the common signs of burnout so you can know if you're experiencing stress, burnout, or something else. If there is one spot I want to go at this time, it will be in your arms. Debra Rose Wilson, PhD, MSN, RN, IBCLC, AHN-BC, CHT, 5 Ways to Accept Your Body and Why It Matters, Why Change Is the Only Constant and How to Embrace It. You'll find some don't deserve you. ALL NAMES, BRANDS, LINKS, IMAGES, VIDEOS, LOGOS AND MENTIONS PRESENTED ON Makanisurfshop.com ARE THE PROPERTY OF THEIR RESPECTIVE OWNERS AND ARE POSTED FOR INFORMATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY. Keep saying this until you believe it: I am good enough. Thankfully, my scorpio came back to me, he said that, first of all, it was not my fault, and secondly, when you love someone, soulto soul, living without that person becomes a torture, so we made up. I know, I used to sabotage many relationships like a preemptive strike because I had abandonment issues. All I can do now is say I love you, I love you, I love you. I really needed to read that. I love you until the end of my life. I told him should he wish, he could contact me, and that I would not push it, but would be there if or when he needed to talk, one way or the other. Nov 2013. Instead of thinking and worrying, do something to take your mind off the negative thoughts. Put yourself in the customer's shoes and determine how the issue . For many years, you are always the one that never abandons me. Please visit our Terms and Conditions. As painful as it may be, my love, you are free. Please know that our site and comments on our blog posts are never intended to be a substitute for professional marriage counseling. But for now, I am good enough. Though, on a rational level, we know that people arent perfect and that the world wont end if we dont achieve perfection, the inner child is still alive and experiences the gnawing discomfort of anticipation of failure. Still, you fill my life with all the nice things I can see, but I filled you with cries. What a stupid act of me. I was of course afraid to tell Mom for fear of her reaction. I'm sorry for letting you down. I have hurt your feelings. Saying "I'm sorry," too often lessens its value, weakens its importance and hurts both the apologizer and the intended recipient. Why would you stand up for yourself? You can muster up the motivation and energy to try and succeed because you believe in yourself and are confident that things will be okay even if you dont succeed the first time. Please forgive me. No matter who you are or where youve come from, you are an inherently amazing, worthy, and loveable human being and are capable of success. One of the main reasons why a person may suffer from not feeling good enough is a lack of self-esteem. Sad, but true. I am also terribly sorry about what happened. Dyslexia is a learning disorder that can make reading and writing more challenging. What is it called when they get mad at you because you dont immediately get over the damage they have done because they apologized? You are my priceless love. This is wrong because you were here first, and it was selfish of me. 2005-2023 Psych Central a Red Ventures Company. I don't know. My friend assured me she would be with me for support. Please, forgive me, and I promise to become better for you. Im missing the nice words while my husband is talking. I'm sorry for the way my life turned out Sorry for the smile I'm wearing now Guess I'm still not . We all make mistakes. Should I quit if I feel I'm not good enough for my job? thats probably one of the few times ive talked back to him-his son ,wife 2 kids and the sons mother (hubbys ex wife) are living here right now so it hasnt left us with much privacy to talk or argue- so weve only had couple of talks about this-he quit the job in may that he was with traveling all the time-(the woman he was seeing works for the company he was at)gone sometimes 3-4 wks and it did take a few days to get used to him being home-especially when the first thing hed do would be to complain constantly about his job,and all he had to do-then start in on me put me down and talk ugly and rudely to me-it made it hard to be close to him-hes a bully towards me,and i see that now,he is a good man,works hard but he complains about EVERYTHING-im the quiet one,i dont talk back to him when he goes off-i let him have his say, i have been talked to like a dog at times,and then minutes later he wanted to have sex- over the years this has just gotten so hard to deal with and has made me feel like my feelings dont matter to him-long as i do all i can to make him happy hes ok-i checked our phone records and hes been having long conversations with her since Febuary on his personal phone-sometimes the call totals for a day would be 3 hrs,during working hours-but he always told me not to call him while he was working because he couldnt talk-he says he is sorry,but thats about it-i just cant forgive him yet-it was 2 wks ago i found this out-i was so upset and saddened i told him i dont know if i can forgive you-and i took off my wedding band and told him ive worn this wedding band for 21 yrs and 10 days- it must mean more to me than it did to you and i cant /wont put it back on until i feel like you are in this marriage and it means as much to you as it does me- i have so many questions i need answers to ,and even wrote my thoughts and feelings down pretty much every day since i found this out- i leave my notebook in the bathroom where he can read what i wrote, but he only wrote down a short paragraph saying he knew he did wrong,he was sorry but he didnt know what i expected him to do- until i have the answers to my questions his apology means zilch -and i cant go forward til i know-i am sleeping in the living room in a recliner and wont share the bed with him-i cant even stand to see him naked, i keep thinking of him being with her,and just have to turn my head and leave the room-he doesnt seem to be sorry,just indifferent.anyone have any advise? I honestly believe that there are days when my boyfriend will withhold that forgiveness on purpose. It felt terrible. A letter of sincere intent. The only way you can move forward is by leaving these thoughts behind. A neutral party may be helpful to keep it from derailing. Im sorry. It is important to let go of the idea that just because youve failed in the past means youre always destined to fail. I dont want him back but he claims if that doesnt happen, hell fall apart from the stress of everything, wont be able to maintain his job and or lose it if HR finds out he now has a DVRO, and since he is the income earner we will be financially destroyed since he claims he cant find another job for 12-18 months with a DVRO on file. If you get curious about what those are and can identify them, then you can shift your focus from believing the not good enough thought to finding ways to get your needs met.. You're so fuckin' special. cant afford a therapist-he is still out of work,luckily we had some savings but it wont last much longer-he is applying for jobs and had interview in the am-but it will be a long while before we have any money for anything other than bills-. Its like they think they waved a magic wand and think you should just be OK now no matter how deep the wound was. I love you. Whether we like it or not, relationships will never avoid finding yourselves needing to apologize to your other half. Fear not. Can we not let it happen this time? It's just the same old thing. 3. Baby, we promised not to allow anything to get in our way. However, saying Im sorry is not easy. Whether your date wants you to be a different person or you cannot live up to your parents standards, these songs about not being good enough can help you feel better. But trust me, I tried to be." "I guess I will never be good enough so why even bother It's just the same old thing." I promise that I will change and become good for you. It reminds me of the laughter and smile we had. Sorry for not being the girl that you thought I was. In any case, Im sorry that I got upset with you tonight, I realize Im not that important now. "I'm not good enough" are four words that are capable of shattering your confidence and self-esteem. I always believe you are a person with a big heart. And for that, I care about you. The information on this site is not medical advice, or for diagnosis or treatment. Now that we are in this situation, I feel down and cannot function well. It is my fault. Im sorry, my love. To accomplish the smallest thing is a big step for me. I'm sorry for letting you see. All that happened has to be blamed for me. "I stopped talking about how I felt because I knew. At least I act with feeling and emotion, instead of living life like its this game of risk and well thought out moves. You both have strong feelings about what happened, and the way each of you communicated (or did not communicate) about these feelings has left you both feeling worse. You are also welcome to call us for assistance finding a therapist. Am I still not worth that much? But I'm weak. However, we dont even need to ask ourselves such a question. I just like feeling blurry around the edges. I look up to you so much. Also, there are many licensed marriage and family therapists who offer sliding scale fees based on income. I have no problem with that. After the Apology: When Being Sorry Isnt Enough. However, I will keep my promise that I will change because I want to become a better person for you. The hurt and pain that I caused you are haunting me every day. I am sad and ashamed. It frustrates me because I hurt the feelings of the number 1 man/woman in my life. A simple Im sorry may not be enough. 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