Youd get the ick. reader, Candid Cally+, writes (31 October 2012): A If no, then you might want to consider another direction for you life. I had told them to tell my Fiance I had to go and and would see her at the hotel, since we were seperated.She had been off with her mother and girlfriends. reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2012): A Add your answer to this question! Telling random people about how your spouse is in bed is just tacky as all hell, and if it's making you uncomfortable (how could it not?) The title alone is so malicious towards a current partners feelings. Everything else with us had been so amazing. The sex isnt as bad as it was, by a long shot, she continues. It is never nice hearing about your partner's past relationships let alone hearing about the details of his sexual past. To see all content on The Sun, please use the Site Map. Do not worry too much about your partner's past. Not in the least. Just.wtf?! I have a daughter from a previous marriage that i care for. The more sex you have with someone, the better you get to know their preferences and what doesnt do it for them. A big mistake a lot of women make is faking sexual pleasure with a partner even when theyre not actually feeling it. reader, alex74+, writes (2 November 2012): A Winter doesnt condone this approach, and instead believes that the subject needs to be brought up tactfully. I couldnt sleep that night, and I went through a myriad of emotions while laying there. WITHOUT going into too much detail, the first time you jump into bed with someone knew is probably never going to be mind-blowing. A third overheard his fiance gush longingly about her ex-boyfriend, calling him a comparatively better lover. Now, he probably isnt terrible. Demonstrate how sexy you find him by making the first move and coming on strong to him. Apparently its a question many of us are asking: Type it into Google, and youll be hit with over three billion results. Dont assume that just because he climaxes, hes had a really enjoyable experience. Unfortunately for one man, this is the exact scenario he's found himself in with his new girlfriend. They all laughed at this which in turn made me feel sick to my stomach.Ufortuatley I had to urinate at this poit and got up to use the restroom. It's crass. This service is provided on News Group Newspapers' Limited's Standard Terms and Conditions in accordance with our Privacy & Cookie Policy. KINGS MOUNTAIN, N.C. (WBTV) Police are looking for the man they say stabbed his ex-girlfriend to death at a Kings Mountain convenience store Tuesday night. Dominique Sisley is a London-based journalist who writes a lot about sex, relationships, and how strange humans are. I mean I appreciate the honesty, but why tell other people? I would be furious! , Theres always a give-and-take, and what you do offer to the relationship may be essential for your mates happiness. So, be confident and show him what you got! Heart-to-Heart Talk: His Best Sex was His Ex! He added: "I made a joke saying, 'yeah Ill get there one day since this was literally our first time doing anything. Another redditor found out that his partner had been posting publicly on a womans homemaking forum about an Italian guy with the thickest penis she [had] ever been with (it gave her jello legs). female So, what do you do when your partner isnt the best sex youve ever had? Do I really want to be out-of-control like that again? Think about whether other issues in your relationship, like a lack of trust or a fear of commitment or being vulnerable with each other might be coming between you in the bedroom. The first time we had sex felt like a really bad cup of coffee, she says. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Long-term relationships involving consistent sex with one person whom we feel comfortable with can teach us a lot about respecting another persons wants and needs and help us put our finger on exactly what turns us on. According to Kings Mountain Police, officers were called to the Silver Express on East King Street for a stabbing at 7:43 p.m. WebAnswer (1 of 94): Before you string me up hear this answer out I had a similar situation with my girlfriend. Given how common it seems to be, there isnt really a clear answer. Copyright 2023 WBTV. reader, kirra07+, writes (31 October 2012): A Its not all just egotistical banter. No one wants to feel inadequate, and even if youre the most grounded person in the world, that pain is still going to sting. It is actually not unusual for people to move from an ex to another partner, only to find out that no matter how great the new partner is, they just cant match up to Tell him what you want. 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The Sun website is regulated by the Independent Press Standards Organisation (IPSO), Our journalists strive for accuracy but on occasion we make mistakes. Were always going to have that one perfect tango partner, she explains. Other than this one transgression, is he a good husband? ), Winter believes its ultimately for the best. male reader, OhGetReal+, writes (16 October 2010): A After all, you don't need to be a sexpert to know it takes a little time to work out each other's likes and dislikes. According to author and relationship expert, , its only natural to start thinking of them as a benchmark. I know there was no malice there when she said it to her friends ,she didnt know I was there.I was just hoping that in this setting where all her filters were off, just her and her girlfriends, it would be me that she was bragging about.Thank for reading. ", Meanwhile, a third wrote: "Even if it were true, things like this should just remain unsaid.". I expressed that she was different, again, not better or worse.different. Becuase it was. reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2010): A The more comfortable you become in your relationship and the better you understand what goes on in their mind, the more deeply youll connect on a sexual level. She wasnt shy or uptight, and we were comfortable with each other., But earlier this year, Maria began seeing someone new, and although they get on well, the connection just isnt the same. Posts are moderated for respect, equanimity, grace, and relevance. ), In many scenarios, the blame tends to fall on an ex a mythical past figure who probably gave you the most intense orgasms of your life, but who was entirely unsuitable in almost every other way. After that, it's "the behavior you tolerate is the behavior you'll get." Then I was depressed.. Should I just walk away? She requires regular watering and withers in direct sun. Hello everyone,sorry for the long post,this is the first time asking a question, although I have been reading many posts here trying to come to terms with something that happened to me recently.I have just recently come back from Europe where I asked my FI to marry me. Some people, like Clara, just think the best thing to do is ignore it. Because if he was, it would likely be down to a lack of chemistry between you, and you wouldnt want him in your bed at all. It's one thing to communicate with your spouse about this issue, but to pore over social media about it is wrong and hurtful. Anyone with information on his whereabouts is asked to call Kings Mountain Police at (704) 734-0444 or Cleveland County Crime Stoppers at (704) 481-TIPS. The lack of whatever is desired is a dealbreaker. Maybe you deserve better. At first, the man tried to brush it off - but understandably, the comment stung a little. Itll help you both figure out exactly what buttons you need to push to turn the other one on. I started directing her in bed, and when she did something I liked, Id moan and give her signals that shes doing a good job.. I know the chances of me being the best lover she's ever had were maybe fifty percent at best just for the reason she is so incredibly attractive, she could have her pick of men , so the idea that I was better than all of them was wishful thinking at best. reader, JustHelpinAgain+, writes (1 November 2012): A Telling your new partner that they don't compare to your ex. Fri 19 Apr 2013 11.40 EDT. It fucked me up bad, he wrote, in a post that ended up attracting more than 8,000 conciliatory responses (the majority of which called for him to end the relationship immediately). Naturally, the man has started panicking a bit and interpreted his girlfriend's comments as her saying he'll never compare. To me it seems like she enjoys sex with me but doesnt believe I will ever be as good as her ex, He wrote: "To me it seems like she enjoys sex with me but doesnt believe I will ever be as good as her ex.". He wants to protect her, care for her, be the apple of her eye in every regard. You're trying to get sober and he is sabotaging that. This service is provided on News Group Newspapers' Limited's Standard Terms and Conditions in accordance with our Privacy & Cookie Policy. For further details of our complaints policy and to make a complaint please click this link: thesun.co.uk/editorial-complaints/, I mistakenly told my husband my ex was better in bed, Furious boyfriend storms Salt Bae's restaurant as girlfriend TWERKS for chef, I'm struggling after having a hot threesome with my art teacher, Lockdown has separated devastated Peggy from her son Tom, Independent Press Standards Organisation (IPSO). 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I asked him about it finally tonight because it had been bothering me for some time. Yes, absolutely you are right to be hurt. ', "And she was kinda dismissive and just said 'yeah.'". WITHOUT going into too much detail, the first time you jump into bed with someone knew is probably never going to be mind-blowing. I know, I know. A great way of doing this is having a sexy night in. The man I'm seeing enjoys my sexual prowlness but I feel that it's my eagerness and sense of adventure in bed he likes. Even if they did have better sexual chemistry with you than your current partner, theyre, an ex, and probably for a good reason. If youve landed on this page, your boyfriend probably isnt all that great in bed. There are plenty of dejected discussions on Reddit of people who have been told theyre disappointing in bed or not the best their partner has ever had. Sometimes, this news is broken bluntly and without fear (one redditor mentions feeling humiliated after his girlfriend complained about his size, before declaring that the sex in her previous relationship had been way better). Ive been in relationships before that i didnt care the sex was so so because of how I felt for the person at the time, but it did not change the reality that the sex was still so so.Why is it hard for some of the people here to understand is that when a man loves a woman deeply he wants to be her "best" he wants to be her hero whether she needs saving or not. A lot of these come from open forum sites like Quora or Reddit, with people of all genders loudly asking for advice about their lackluster love lives. It doesnt work like that. female Not only has he told you, the ex is better in bed, he has also told friends and relatives. If you feel awkward about being physical with your partner or expressing your sexuality in any way, that will hinder the likelihood of you enjoying sex with your partner more than your 'lack of experience' will. They might just assume that your body works in the same way. View related questions: I was lost for words the first time we did it, in the worst possible way., As soon as they hit the bedroom, the dream was destroyed. Ive given up on trying to make [my boyfriend] better, and Ive accepted that were just not sexually compatible, she says. female That is still something positive, which you can take from this awkward incident. The passion that your mate thought was so exciting may have been volatile and chaotic, she hypothesizes. There are plenty of articles on the topic, too, which all offer consolatory platitudes about how best to handle terminal sexual chemistry. That definitely would hurt anyone to hear those words come out of their partners mouth! Light some candles and get the massage oils out. Our likes and dislikes evolve and fluctuate, from day to day and from year to year. Plus this woman blasted her bridezilla sister who didnt invite her disabled husband to her wedding she didnt want wheelchair to ruin the photos. Like, you have certain expectations, but it disappoints you.. There are plenty of articles on the topic, too, which all offer consolatory platitudes about how best to handle terminal sexual chemistry. Comparing you with an ex-relationship in an insulting manner is totally wrong of him. I have repeatedly told him that I did not enjoy sex more with any of my exes so I told him to be more intimate with me, but nothing works. For other inquiries, Contact Us. For more relationship stories, this woman thought she was being stood up by her Tinder date after he forgot his wallet but it was SO much worse. He is lovely and tells me how much he loves me everyday and says that Im the love of his life, and I feel the same way. Until, suddenly, it wasnt. Itll make it far easier to have open conversations about what you need from your partner. Sex is never a fixed thing. Katie is a writer and translator with a focus on travel, self-care and sustainability. Am I right to be hurt? If they have such strong negative emotions about their ex, why is the sex still remebered as being so good? I know I'm not the same (sexually) in regards to my lower half. Its not just the unsatisfied partner that suffers, either. The issue could be that he just doesnt really care about your pleasure. Click here to chat online to someone right now. reader, TasteofIndia+, writes (18 September 2010): A Several months ago, her boyfriend moved into her place, and she was under the impression their relationship was going great. So then hes almost definitely going to try it again, and again. reader, CindyCares+, writes (31 October 2012): A It fucked me up bad, he wrote, in a post that ended up I had flown some of her close friends and family( her parents of course)secretly to meet us there as a suprise to celebrate. female Hes clumsy, sure, but hes also my best friend, so Im happy to make the compromise.. female Seems like a red flag if I ever saw one. Some men struggle to understand that every woman is different. (For what its worth, this topic doesnt seem to be presented much in mens media, despite the pretty even gender split on Reddit. I for one, would not be comfortable with someone talking about their sexual encounters with me, and I make it clear that doing so is a deal break for me. She spends her free time hiking, exploring, eating vegan tapas and volunteering for a local dog shelter. I just felt like raising my hands up to the sky and screaming, Are you fucking kidding me?!? 679215 Registered office: 1 London Bridge Street, London, SE1 9GF. My ex told me that making me orgasm was too difficult. The common belief, particularly in womens media, seems to be that you, good long-term relationships with the best sex of your life, guys who rock your room dont make great grooms, , the best-sex-of-your-life-guy is the creepy guy. I'm sorry to you that he would even say anything. I have been insecure with my body since I had my daughter. You may provide consistency and fidelity. Can you handle knowing that you may never compare to a mysterious, faceless former lover? We were talking about our past sexual experiences and as we were sharing stories, he made a confession about how great his sex was with his previous girlfriend before me. 2017). I recently asked what about my body and he basically said that from a objective point of view her (his ex) body is better than mine but he's still more physically attracted to me and has enjoyed sex a lot more. Maybe it takes you a long time to orgasm and he cant last long enough to get you to that point. FABULOUS BINGO: GET A 5 FREE BONUS WITH NO DEPOSIT REQUIRED. I sometimes encourage him when hes doing something right, and that works.. Now, you might be tempted to fake it if youre with someone and you know its going to be a one-time thing. A ittle later I was woken up by my Fiance and her friends coming back to our hotel room. "The Sun", "Sun", "Sun Online" are registered trademarks or trade names of News Group Newspapers Limited. I would consider couples counselling. Get expert help dealing with problems in the bedroom. WebThe reason you think sex with your ex was better is because youre not taking responsibility for your sex life and your relationship right now. But the less you do it, the less chance there is that youll grow together sexually and start having satisfying sex that will underpin your strong emotional bond. Its treacherous terrain. Im sure you dont need me to tell you that. You Either the dude is deliberately cutting you down, which is abusive, or his social skills are so bad as to be irredeemable Continue Theres always a give-and-take, and what you do offer to the relationship may be essential for your mates happiness. If you have to schedule it because of work or other commitments, do it. Practice really does make perfect when it comes to sex. Touch yourself so he can see exactly what works for you. It felt sort of awkward at first hearing that but we were on the topic of sex and I was kind of probing and wanting to know anyway. Now its time to think about what you can do to change things so that you both enjoy sex. Because if you fake it, then hell logically assume that you liked whatever he was doing. 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